For several years, I have wrestled with requests for recordings from people whose schedules don’t allow them to be part of my Enjoy Being Married teleclasses. I do the teleclasses for free. I don’t advertise anything during them. What I get in return is real-life marriage stories. I learn what people are facing. I hear their great ideas for each other. I discover when I make sense and...
Most of the time when couples disagree, I strongly urge them to Find Third Alternatives. Life together rocks when you both get what you want or better. Fortunately, though, you get two votes at the end of a political campaign. You both get to cast the vote you want, and which candidate wins probably will not depend on how your household votes. Best advice for handling campaign disagreements...
When your husband or wife has settled in to watch TV or answer emails is a terrible time for “Let’s do something together.” And any time is a terrible time for “We never do anything together.” Here are some alternatives you might want to try. I want to take you to dinner tonight. Does Chinese or Mexican sound better? It’s a beautiful sunny day out, and...
I received a lengthy comment today from a reader dealing with her husband’s viewing of porn on the internet. I suggested looking up Mark Laaser, Phd, who has written some helpful stuff on the subject after finding himself getting sucked into it. One of his books is The Pornography Trap: Setting Pastors and Laypersons Free from Sexual Addiction..You can see him in this Smart Marriages 2010...
Do you have a list of things you are not getting from your husband? I did, right before my first marriage came to a crashing halt. I had a long list. It was the list of a married woman. Single women have a different sort of list. They pay their bills, clean their bathrooms, shop for clothes, even raise children without a husband. What’s on their list? Love. Someone to know them. Someone to...
