One thing greatly discouraged me about my training as a marriage educator. Most of the exercises and techniques were for becoming a better spouse. I see the same thing in most books about marriage. When a person is unhappy with their marriage, becoming a better spouse is difficult and kind of risky. Will trying something new cause our partner to do anything that will make us any happier? This is...
Today, on Veterans Day, the New York Times is calling General Petraeus, a highly decorated veteran and four-star general, simply David H. Petraeus. He stepped down as head of the CIA this week after the FBI learned he was having an affair with one of the authors of his biography, a married mother of two. No one entrusted with a nation’s top secrets or a publicly held corporation’s...
If perchance this blog has helped you improve your marriage, would you be willing to share your story with a national women’s magazine reporter? The request appeared in Bill and Steve Harrison’s Reporter Connection this afternoon. Submit your story by Monday, November 12, 2012, at 6 pm eastern. If you’re not up for appearing in a national magazine, would you consider submitting...
Guys, this is about three mistakes women make that may be behind whatever your woman is doing to drive you nuts. These are honest mistakes, not negligence or intentional abuse. I tell you about them because they might come in handy if you Assume Love and try to find a different, more loving explanation for her behavior than the first one that comes to mind when she upsets you. Mistake Number 1...
Many of us have a rough time at first dealing with our in-laws. Why? Because our claim on our life partner is so much newer than theirs is. Everything we do to protect it makes them uneasy. So don’t set yourself up as competitors. These are parents and siblings, not your competition for wife or husband or life partner. When you want to explain your point of view, begin with words like:...
