This was fun! Grace Pamer interviewed me for her blog Romance Never Dies. She’s a sucker for marriage proposals and endlessly curious about how love begins. She asked me about both of my wonderful husbands. While you’re there, look for Adam and Aubrie’s proposal. It’s a lot of fun, and I don’t really think such fun ought to end when we marry. Let’s propose a...
I received a comment this week on my very popular Should I Stay Married for the Kids? post. I think it’s an important one, so I am replying to it in this blog post. If you have kids and are considering divorce or do not currently enjoy being married, I hope you will read the whole thing. It’s from someone who gets what it means to kids when parents divorce but must make a difficult...
The guiding idea behind Assume Love has been described as “give your spouse the benefit of the doubt.” Close, but it would be much more accurate to say “give yourself the benefit of the doubt.” I’m not here to turn you into a better spouse. I am here to help you enjoy being married. The benefit I care about is your satisfaction with your marriage and your life. I...
My husband dared me to make this advice today’s blog post after I offered it to him during dinner out with my mom last night. Just grab it by the antlers and gnaw. Here’s hoping you, too, find something it applies to today. By the way, he located his spoon before the mousse arrived but not before we both had pictured switching from dainty spoonfuls to a good gnaw on our biggest make...
What’s the worst that can happen to your marriage? I think it is a build-up of resentment. It is next-to-impossible to show love to someone when you resent what they’ve done or not done. Even if you try, your actions will be suspect. Your body language will give you away. Resentment is what allows the thought process that justifies emotional affairs, infidelity, and deliberate...
