When one of you always longs to climb to the top of that rock formation while the other prefers to head to that movie theater with the reclining seats instead, it’s easy to make the mistake of going your separate ways. And it’s not such a bad idea, unless it breaks the bond between you. Here are some ideas for keeping that bond strong. Find friends who enjoy what you do but pose no...
Date night is all about the two of you, interacting with each other over things other than your bills, your kids, your home, or your work. If you can’t leave your sleeping kids or don’t feel like dealing with bad weather, there is a new game you might enjoy at home. We learned about it from friends who have literally worn the paint off three sets of tiles already, playing together and...
When marriages are running along smoothly, income and assets are usually shared generously, regardless of who owns them on paper. In most states, the two of you have a good deal of say over who owns them on paper. Only nine states in the US are community property states, where both partners share equally in each others’ incomes and new assets. (The nine are AZ, CA, ID, LA, NV, NM, TX, WA...
Another great question in the comments on another post sparked this post: What if you can find the evidence that your spouse loves you by what he has said, but the way he says it is delivered in a frightening way, such as by yelling, cursing, and slamming doors? How do you handle that behavior? Special Situations Yelling, cursing, and slamming doors are ways to feel better inside (they are a...
If you are an adventure-seeker, someone who loves to try new things and test your nerves whenever you can, you may find yourself attracted to and then married to your opposite, a comfort-seeker. At some point, you may think you married the wrong person, that you have nothing in common with this person and would be better off with another adventure-seeker. But there is a reason we’re...
