Today marks 7 years since I published my first post on Assume Love. Whether you have been here all seven years or discovered this blog more recently, happy anniversary to us! May your Valentine’s Day be filled with surprises and eye-locking delights.
This may be good news to women who exhaust themselves providing help and support and to the men who love them. Researchers Erin E. Crockett and Lisa A. Neff studied gender differences in what support from a spouse does for our stress levels (or, in the more precise language of researchers, our cortisol slopes). Help from a husband reduced stress (increased the slope) in women. But supportive acts...
Some things bear repeating from time to time. Here are my three favorite ways to feel more loved. Assume Love. Don’t fall prey to your lizard brain’s automatic self-protection plan when you’re dealing with someone who has promised to love you and done a decent job of it until just now. Before you react to whatever just upset you (except violence or a threat of violence), try on...
Back when I was single (between husbands), I danced twice a week at The Yellow Rose Saloon. Men who met the women of their dreams there had no problem coming up with an idea for proposing. Wait for her favorite band and show up with a ring and a couple dozen yellow roses, and you could get down on one knee on stage. When they closed, and we all moved over to the Colorado Cafe, with a DJ and lots...
Are you going through hard times? How do you know? Perhaps your spouse lost a job. You two have less money. You have no way to predict when he or she will work again. Almost certainly, you would approach the job hunt differently. Is this tough times? Or is it exactly what you hoped for when the two of you were working long hours, the break that lets you spend more time together or change up the...
