“If you don’t get married, you can’t get divorced. Why couldn’t we learn from the devastatingly low percentage of successful marriages that our last generation went through?” This quote from Adam Levine is all over the internet this week, attributed to a cover story in Nylon Guys, a fashion magazine, whose own link to the interview comes up with a 404 error. I am a...
Knot Yet: The Benefits and Costs of Delayed Marriage in America just came out. Lots of interesting findings about our ever-increasing average age of first marriage. The central point is the “Great Crossover,” which happened in 2000. Since 1970, the median age at which a woman has her first child has been slowly increasing. (See Figure 9.) I was 18 then and half of all the women the...
On Saturday, I am teaching a very special teleclass on Money and Your Marriage. I have two spots left, and I hope you can join us. There is no charge. Saturday, March 23, 2013 at 11am PST / 12n MST / 1pm CST / 2pm EST How do you see money? How do you use it? Are your habits and attitudes working for you? Are they creating conflicts with your spouse? We will be testing a brand new online version...
From a recent comment on What Should You Expect from a Husband or Wife?: I do try to assume love, but what do you do when your husband’s idea of “helping” is only doing what he feels like doing? I wind up spending hours and hours on housework, cooking, laundry, etc. Plus working full time. He hangs out and maybe does the dishes once a month. If your spouse is not interested in...
“Micro-moments of positivity resonance.” This is how the brilliant researcher, Barbara Frederickson, defines the emotion of love. Her new book, Love 2.0, explains why and why it matters. And this one’s big, folks. She’s talking about love the emotion, not love the action and not commitment or bonding or marriage, all of which we hope last a bit longer than a micro-moment...
