Most of us go about this the wrong way, especially early in our marriages. Let’s say you want your husband to take the trash out before the pickup time, wash the dishes after you cook a meal, or spend more time teaching your kids baseball skills. Here’s what works best with most husbands. 1. Ask, Don’t Tell When you tell your husband what to do, you sound more like a mother than...
Every week seems to bring more findings about oxytocin. Most of the research uses an oxytocin nasal spray, but our bodies release the stuff during orgasm and when we experience the emotion of love, those brief sessions of our brains getting in sync as we share some other positive emotion together. Oxytocin improves communication and increases trust in those who are not lying to us. Now we learn...
Do you take acetaminophen (Tylenol®) when you have a headache, muscle ache, or the flu? If so, you might want to know about a couple of recent research studies. In Over-the-Counter Relief From Pains and Pleasures Alike: Acetaminophen Blunts Evaluation Sensitivity to Both Negative and Positive Stimuli, Geoffrey R. O. Durso, Andrew Luttrell, and Baldwin M. Way, all from Ohio State...
I was recently interviewed by Pace and Kyeli Smith for Pace’s Wild Crazy Meaningful Life podcast series. You can listen to it here: They asked some great questions. Here are some of the high points we hit, in the order they come up in the podcast: Assume Love Miller’s Law Pace, why do you put your empty coffee cup next to the sink? Kyeli, how could you have bought me the shampoo that...
“We’re nothing more than roommates anymore.” “I don’t have any feelings left for you; you feel like nothing more than a roommate now.” It’s a dreadful place to get to. So empty. So full of regrets. And it happens to a lot of couples, so let’s talk about how it happens, how to avoid it, and how to recover from it. Here, in a nutshell, is how to avoid...
