We cannot “fix” our spouses. To do so, we would need to assume the “better person” role and pronounce as flawed the person we vowed to love and honor, revealing disrespect. Not a good idea in a relationship based on respect and sharing. The best we can hope for is to influence our spouses, to hope they will admire our choices and adopt them as their own. Short of that, we...
Joshua Rogers yesterday shared some excellent advice from Lula Rawls, who has been married for 67 years. He was seated next to this grandmother of the groom at a wedding rehearsal dinner five years ago and asked for her marriage advice. I love the depth of what she had to say. “You’ve got to remember that one of you will always be loving more.” Just in case that didn’t...
Which of these are you really good at? Trigonometry Skiing Making a souffle that doesn’t fall Sewing by hand Replacing a clutch Nature photography Throwing a birthday party Treating the injured at a car crash scene Throwing a curve ball Managing money Matching the perfect wine to a meal It wasn’t everything on the list, was it? So if you’ve screwed up your marriage or married...
If your wife spends less time making herself beautiful, does it mean she cares less about you? If she starts wearing nicer makeup, does it mean she’s cheating on you? Probably not. In research reported this month’s issue of Psychological Science, we learn that women choices in makeup vary with the testosterone levels in their saliva. We also know that overall interest in her...
I just read an article published online yesterday and due to appear in the upcoming issue of the Journal of Family Issues. It reports a new study showing that college students, ages 18 to 21, almost all of them living away from home at a private religious college and a state university, pay a steep price for their parents’ arguments back home. What price? Depression if they feel frightened...
