We’ve all got our pet peeves when living with someone else, and spouses get a special break only for the first few months. What should you do when you encounter dirty dishes in the sink, an open toothpaste tube on the sink, wet bathroom floors, sweat socks in the dining room, spice bottles lined up alphabetically instead of by height and all the rest of the annoying things that real people...
No, love isn’t all you need to get through life. But when talking about your marriage, this song title serves as excellent advice. All you need from your husband or wife is love. If you’ve got kids and a house and a job and a love of quiet walks in the woods, you probably have a lot more needs, but you don’t need them from your spouse. You need them whether or not you’ve...
This website is for anyone who’s ever wondered if their husband, wife, or life partner really meant that “I do” or whether they are still loved today. It’s for everyone who’s found a partner but still battles with unmet needs, unresolved conflicts, and questions of what’s fair and what’s not. I learned a few things when I lost my first husband. First...
Almost all of us crave love. A few seem to get by without it, and a few more claim unconvincingly to do without, but most of us will twist ourselves into knots to be loved. Married folks who don’t feel loved enough can really feel deprived. I’ve noticed that when we crave more love from a spouse, we have only three choices. The first one many of us try is what I’d call foot...
Here’s how you Assume Love. Consider doing it every time your spouse does something or fails to do something and you feel anger, resentment, hurt, fear, shame, frustration, or superiority taking hold of your emotions: Assume you are completely loved by a wonderful person. Attempt to explain how such a person might come to do what just happened. If you can think of one or more explanations...
