Dr. Norval Glenn, sociologist at The University of Texas at Austin, with Elizabeth Marquardt, recently surveyed 1,500 18 to 35 year olds and interviewed another 70 in depth. Half were children of divorce, half were not. No more than a third had their lives improved by their parents’ divorce. Norval reports, “if there is violence or extreme conflict, or if the marriage is so bad it...
Recently, my husband and I attended a weekend event with speakers’ presentations in several of the ballrooms and a hospitality suite on the top floor for eating, drinking, and mingling. We’ve both gone to these before and know lots of the other folks who show up. So why did my worrying mind go into overdrive when I noticed he’d vanished from the seat next to mine at one of the...
I strongly recommend Fighting for Your Marriage by Howard J. Markman, Scott M. Stanley, and Susan L. Blumberg. A new and revised version was published in 2001 by Jossey-Bass. Assume Love can be the first step on the road to a happier marriage, but it should not be the last step. The PREP program taught in this book can improve your marriage even more. PREP stands for Prevention and Relationship...
Danny Perasa says being married is like color TV instead of black & white. He and his wife Annie tell their love story, one well worth listening to, at the NPR website.
When your spouse has just struck you or threatened to take a knife to you while you sleep, can you Assume Love? Absolutely. But you want to be very careful not to pretend love. You Assume Love to check whether it’s possible this act could happen if you are still loved. Sometimes the answer’s no. If there’s no intention to protect you from harm or threat of harm, there’s no...
