I was feeling rather low this morning, so I started reading old posts, looking for inspiration. Instead, I ran into a few nice surprises, posts I had forgotten I wrote, very nice ones. They surprised me and cheered me up. I thought I would share a quote or two from each of them with you. The titles link to the posts, in case they grab you, too. What Would a Great Marriage Feel Like? I think a...
I never saw it this way before. Maybe you didn’t either. Have you heard of Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi’s research into the state he calls flow? It’s a wonderful state, reached by artists as they create, rock climbers as they climb, writers as they write, mothers as they play with their babies, even by wallpaperers as they transform a room. Jeremy Dean gave a great summary of flow...
Happy Fourth of July!! Folks in the US celebrate Independence Day today. This has me thinking about the phrase “significant other.” Give me a moment to make the connection. Independence is a big deal here, and we’re well into yet another upswing in its importance. Americans do not like to be told what to do. In World War II, most folks gave up a whole bunch of personal...
I have done a lot of work with positive psychologists, devising ways to use the internet to collect their data or teach what they’ve discovered. One of the most fascinating aspects of this work for me has been the study of character strengths. I see them at work in my marriage and in other folks’ relationships all the time. An example of a character strength is a sense of humor and...
Want to be the best sort of dad? Show your children how to feel and express their gratitude on this special day. Gratitude is the one proven way to exceed their happiness set-point. And pointing out their mother’s best points is a sure way to increase their security in this world and their ability to find love as adults. Be an enthusiastic supporter of your wife or ex-wife today and every...
I am a widow who got it right the second time. I have been sharing here since February 14, 2006 what I learned from that experience and from positive psychology, marriage research, and my training as a marriage educator.
