When you’re facing a big, hairy problem, you can curl up in a little ball and beg your spouse to solve it for you. Or you can come up with a possible solution and try to talk your spouse into joining you in implementing it. Most of the time, both of these will just leave you with a big, hairy problem and an unhappy relationship. Since, of course, you deserve better, these will probably also...
Having trouble communicating about the issues in your marriage? You may not be speaking the same language. “We need to stop spending so much money.” It’s a simple statement of an opinion, yet an utterly uninviting, unencouraging one. We could use some alternatives. “I’m looking forward to doing a lot of things together after the kids are grown and we’re...
Thanks to the always informative Smart Marriages newsletter, I have a great link to share with you today, a downloadable version of the cover story in January’s Scientific American Mind.
Research shows some simple exercises can make you feel closer to just about anyone. I recommend you stick to trying them with your spouse.
Steven Stosny gets it. His take on resolving marriage battles changes everything, whether your marriage is abusive or just stressed out. In Dr. Stosny’s November 30th blog post, he looked at our two options for dealing with this pair of competing thoughts (cognitive dissonance), so common for us married folks: “I am a loving and compassionate person. Yet I am not loving and...
If you’re engaged and waiting until you can afford a wedding, take this idea to the prettiest church you know. In today’s news, beautiful Espoo Cathedral, in Finland, has scheduled Friday night of the Valentine’s Day weekend as a “wedding night.” They will open the church to perform up to 100 weddings at no charge. Anyone with the Finnish equivalent of our marriage...
