Married couples disagree. The ones who stay married the longest disagree just as much as the ones who divorce. Disagreements become angry battles or festering resentments only when you fall into the trap of thinking a disagreement requires a choice between your two points of view. You start out thinking Option A vs. Option B. If you argue for Option A or Option B, you lose. Jump the net instead...
I love this in Steven Stosny’s recent blog post: "Your best chance of changing your partner’s behavior is to change what he/she reacts to in you. Your partner is likely to respond in kind to your behavior, whether it is loving, compassionate, and supportive or resentful, demanding, and critical. "But regardless of how your partner responds, you will feel more authentic and...
The Discovery Health Channel on cable TV will be showing Enraged this week, which “follows the dramatic and compelling stories of two families close to the breaking point because of a loved one’s explosive anger.” Steven Stosny appears, with a glimpse into his powerful Boot Camp for couples dealing with anger. The schedule: Sunday, May 2 at 10 pm Monday, May 3 at 12 am Tuesday...
The marvelous Pam Slim, author of Escape from Cubicle Nation writes today about divorce through a child’s eyes. Pam is the mother of an adorable five-year-old now. Check out the photo of Pam at that same age, just before her father decided to find himself, minus the wife and kid, and how long it took Pam to find herself again as a consequence. She doesn’t mention if her father ever...
Feel like you’ve got too much cooking and cleaning to do? Too much grass to mow? Too many chins to wipe? Too much responsibility for bringing in income? Wishing your husband or wife would pick up more of the load? There are two ways to split responsibility with another adult. One is to divide it all in half. This is next to impossible, as the two of you look at the same situation and see...
