CategoryAbuse & cheating

It Doesn’t Happen Very Often


Mentally healthy people don’t hit, push, punch, or throw things at loved ones who could be seriously hurt. Mentally healthy people do not ever have sex with an unwilling partner through force or threat. Mentally healthy people don’t load their kids or their spouse into the car and drive drunk. Mentally healthy people don’t stay in the vicinity of those they love when they cannot...

Do You Want to Catch Your Husband or Wife Cheating?


There are many websites and blog posts devoted to the signs that a spouse is cheating and all the things you can do to confirm your suspicions. Well before the showers and colognes, the unexplained late nights at work, the secret emails and spare cell phones, there are clues you may find a lot more helpful, because you can do something about them before things get worse. Recovering your marriage...

Which is Worse? Cheating or Abusing?


Is one worse than the other? Both happen when we don’t care about our mate or when we are so overwhelmed with emotions we feel entitled to or unable to control our awful actions. Surely, infidelity causes as much emotional pain as emotional abuse does. And because it can lead to deadly diseases or a fiercely angry lover or lover’s mate, it runs the same risk of permanent or fatal...

The Alcohol Explanation


When you Assume Love and ask how a truly loving husband, wife, or life partner could say those words, spend that money, or get that violent, beware of the alcohol explanation. Many people are quicker to anger and less diplomatic in their ways of expressing it when they drink. Most, however, cannot violate their own moral code even when drunk. If they would protect your college fund or your...

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Emotional Abuse Boot Camp by Webinar


Emotional abuse is a serious problem in any marriage, whether you’re dishing it out or taking it. Dr. Steven Stosny developed a unique and highly effective way to help both the abusers and the abused. Until now, if you wanted to learn it, you had to get yourself to Maryland or hope he took his Boot Camp on the road to a city near you. I just received an announcement from him today of a Love...

Patty Newbold

I am a widow who got it right the second time. I have been sharing here since February 14, 2006 what I learned from that experience and from positive psychology, marriage research, and my training as a marriage educator.

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