Make a list of the chores you’re waiting for your spouse to take care of. Now go down the list and ask yourself how you would take care of them while he or she is off in intensive care at the hospital. Feel that shudder? Sense yourself pulling away, wondering how long you could let it go until your beloved is back on the job? Are you telling yourself you’re not strong enough or...
I just received the sad news last night that infidelity support expert Peggy Vaughan has died after a four-year struggle with cancer. Before she left us, Peggy made sure her Extramarital Affairs Resource Center website, DearPeggy.com, would live on. Her great body of work is still there to help those hurt by an affair or heading for one. So is her Beyond Affairs Network (BAN), offering in-person...
One thing greatly discouraged me about my training as a marriage educator. Most of the exercises and techniques were for becoming a better spouse. I see the same thing in most books about marriage. When a person is unhappy with their marriage, becoming a better spouse is difficult and kind of risky. Will trying something new cause our partner to do anything that will make us any happier? This is...
Today, on Veterans Day, the New York Times is calling General Petraeus, a highly decorated veteran and four-star general, simply David H. Petraeus. He stepped down as head of the CIA this week after the FBI learned he was having an affair with one of the authors of his biography, a married mother of two. No one entrusted with a nation’s top secrets or a publicly held corporation’s...
If perchance this blog has helped you improve your marriage, would you be willing to share your story with a national women’s magazine reporter? The request appeared in Bill and Steve Harrison’s Reporter Connection this afternoon. Submit your story by Monday, November 12, 2012, at 6 pm eastern. If you’re not up for appearing in a national magazine, would you consider submitting...
I am a widow who got it right the second time. I have been sharing here since February 14, 2006 what I learned from that experience and from positive psychology, marriage research, and my training as a marriage educator.
