The Los Angeles Times reports Vanessa Bryant is likely to gain a “windfall” in her divorce from Kobe Bryant. It could be $75 million in assets plus a hefty monthly living allowance. Indeed, she is likely to leave the marriage with a whole lot more wealth than she would be likely to have if she had remained unmarried. They live in a community property state and have been married for...
It’s not a Christmas tradition, not a Chanukah tradition, if you are the only one looking forward to it. Why not retire the worn out ones this year and try something new? If everyone looks forward to the new one next December, keep it. If not, keep experimenting. The great traditions are the ones that build excitement in advance and memories to savor after the holiday has passed, and there...
Life demands a lot of us. A new baby, a new business, a move away from family and friends, a new boss, even a promotion can send us into overwhelm. Know what happens once we hit overwhelm? Our thinking switches to what Daniel Kahneman call WYSIATI—What You See Is All There Is. This leads us to an ugly place. Here is the trip as I have been known to take it. I am overwhelmed. Too much to do...
The news media love to declare the end of marriage. Yes, lots more of the over-18 crowd were married back in 1970. Now it is 51% (counting only opposite-sex marriages, per the federal definition of marriage). Should you feel less in the mainstream if you are married? Hardly. Thirty seven percent of Americans over the age of 18 have been married to the same person for at least the last 10 years...
Here are three books I often recommend to people dealing with marriage problems. If You Doubt Your Spouse Still Loves You or Your Spouse Doubts Your Love: The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate by Gary Chapman If Your Disagreements Turn into Loud Arguments: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work If You Hit, Grab, Choke, or Belittle Your Spouse or Your...
I am a widow who got it right the second time. I have been sharing here since February 14, 2006 what I learned from that experience and from positive psychology, marriage research, and my training as a marriage educator.
