Lori, who writes the marvelous blog called The Generous Wife, has given Assume Love one of her 2011 Grow Your Marriage Awards, specifically this one: For Reminding Us All to “Get Over Yourself” ~ this blog regularly challenges me, it’s a very good mirror. Handsome little badge, don’t you think? And a great reminder to me to get over myself in my marriage. If you are a fan...
Every year brings a new opportunity to decide who we will become next. Want to become a much happier person? Here is a technique that might help. List any one thing you wish your husband or wife would do to make you happier. For example, compliment your appearance more often or take over supporting your son’s interest in the violin. Write down why you think this will make you happier. For...
The Situation You are preparing dinner. As you pull out the chicken and vegetables, you do a quick check for other ingredients you will need. Eggs? Check. Milk? Check. Mustard? Check. Everything’s there. You cut up the chicken and vegetables while the oven heats up. You dump the dry ingredients for dumplings in the bowl, then reach for the milk. Your heart sinks as you lift it. You pour it...
At the suggestion of a wonderful, caring reader, I added a new link to Assume Love this past weekend. Now you can receive Assume Love by email. Remember to watch for the confirmation email. If it shows up in your Junk folder, mark it as from an address you want to receive email from. Then be sure to click on the confirmation link in the email, so we know it was really you who entered your email...
Expect Love. Most husbands and wives enter marriage intending to give you lots of it. What happens? Why does it stop? Why is every day not as love-filled as our wedding day? It happens when we think we know what our spouses will do to show they love us. We think we know, so we look for that, instead of looking for any other form of love. We look for dinners we like, when we like them. When they...
I am a widow who got it right the second time. I have been sharing here since February 14, 2006 what I learned from that experience and from positive psychology, marriage research, and my training as a marriage educator.
