It’s January. Time for all those post-holiday arguments. You two have different goals for the new year. You have different hurts left over from last year. You have different fears, different challenges ahead. You have different ideas of how important those threats or challenges will be. You have different ideas how to deal with them. Break out the arguments. And crank up the stakes. Your...
Here’s a fascinating bit of unexpected support for marriage education. Your willingness to consider the possibility that there’s something valuable to be learned, in and of itself, predicts you are more likely to succeed in marriage than someone who believes it’s a matter of how good a match you made.
Here’s a great quote from Jim Collins’ book Good to Great that applies even more to marriages than to the businesses he writes about: “Get involved in something that you care so much about that you want to make it the greatest it can possibly be, not because of what you will get, but just because it can be done.” Most of us start out this way, vowing to keep at it through...
Today was a clear, autumn day in Pennsylvania. Perfect for a new experience. For the first time, I flew in a small, four-seater plane, a Cessna 172. In the pilot’s seat was my husband, now in possession of a pilot’s license after 40-some years of looking up at the sky and wishing. As a child, I had frequented airports and looked up, too, with my parents, who both flew until they had...
I found this fascinating description of marriage in Bali today, with yet another reason to be married: “For Balinese, a marriage in Bali is not just a union of two individual but also a passing of the baton religious and social responsibilities from father to son. Son inherits everything, wealth, debt, religious and social obligations, family temple, and of course obligation to perform...
