Barbara Sher has me thinking about a marriage retreat. The first, most obvious kind, is a couples retreat. Hold it in some quaint little out-of-the-way town with great bed and breakfasts or a country inn. Or on a warm and sunny island south of here. But I don’t do couples work. I do the-marriage-inside-your-head work. Make yourself happier and enjoy your marriage more work. Aha moment work...
One thing I learned from screwing up my first marriage is that happy marriages start with happy partners. It’s not the other way around. As much as your mate might want to add to your happiness, he or she cannot make you happy when you are not. In my second marriage, Barbara Sher’s book Wishcraft: How to Get What You Really Want has been a big part of our efforts to find our own...
I am a widow who got it right the second time. I have been sharing here since February 14, 2006 what I learned from that experience and from positive psychology, marriage research, and my training as a marriage educator.
