So much of the time, when married folks say they want to take their spouse to marriage therapy, it’s to answer this question: am I right? The answer is not very helpful. Referees are useful only for deciding competitions, not for making relationships more intimate or more satisfying. A better question is this: how can we resolve this disagreement in a way that satisfies both of us? On the...
Barbara Sher has been inspiring people for most of my adult life to do what they love. She’s helped them tap into their talents and passions. She’s helped them get around a million obstacles. She’s told them not to choose between the many things that thrill them, but to use her tricks to fit them all into one lifetime. She’s even helped them figure out what they love doing...
What are you waiting for from your spouse? Are you waiting for more appreciation? More picking up after himself? More self-reliance when it comes to getting the computer and other electronics to work? Are you waiting for more foreplay? Less modesty in bed? Better meals? Some landscaping? Maybe weight loss? Or perhaps vacation planning? What would you do if you learned today for certain you will...
The wrong way to stay married for the kids. Sleep in separate rooms, keep separate schedules, date other people, stay angry at each other, refer to each other around the kids as “your mother” and “your father.” This is not staying married. It’s just staying. You and your kids deserve better. But divorce is not the only alternative. The right way to stay married for...
One wants to go out more. The other would just as soon stay home. It is an incredibly common difference of opinion between couples. It would be less of one if couples recognized they have lots more options. The person who wants to go out more assumes their partner wants to stay home to avoid the very things he or she values about getting out, whether it’s new experiences, better food, or...
