If divorce is looking like a tempting option, I recommend you give it a try. But don’t start with a new sex partner or a new home. Start with a new you. One fellow interviewed for the Huffington Post’s section on divorce said the best thing about divorce was being able to have a beer with the guys after work. If you would, too, this is the place to start. Try not to come home drunk or...
When your husband or wife pulls back from your relationship, gets distracted by work or a hobby, or says, “I love you, but I am not in love with you,” that’s scary. Your lifestyle, your family, your home, your wealth, and your self-esteem may all feel on the line. And you may very well feel it’s unjustified, unfair. This makes you angry. You may even feel you have no...
This is part three of my mini-series that began on Sunday on how to tell if you’re correctly using my three favorite techniques for a happier marriage: Assume Love Expect Love Find Third Alternatives Today we look at Find Third Alternatives. This is a very handy technique when a disagreement puts you on the defensive or when you still want what you have decided you cannot really expect your...
Yesterday, I began a mini-series on how to tell if you’re correctly using my three favorite techniques for a happier marriage: Assume Love Expect Love Find Third Alternatives Expect Love is the second technique. There are two parts: (1) when someone promises to love you for the rest of your life, expect him or her to be trying most of the time to show you love, and (2) don’t drive off...
My three favorite techniques for a happier marriage are Assume Love Expect Love Find Third Alternatives I thought it might be interesting this week to do a short series on how to tell if you are doing them correctly. When you Assume Love, you are deliberately counteracting your default assumption. Because you are human, most sensory input first passes through a filter whose assumption is always...
