“Micro-moments of positivity resonance.” This is how the brilliant researcher, Barbara Frederickson, defines the emotion of love. Her new book, Love 2.0, explains why and why it matters. And this one’s big, folks. She’s talking about love the emotion, not love the action and not commitment or bonding or marriage, all of which we hope last a bit longer than a micro-moment...
After a few years of marriage, many women start to wonder if they are still the one woman their husband wants to be with. Once the wondering begins, almost everything can look like evidence that it’s no longer true. Time spent on a hobby or online? Looks like proof. Too tired or worried for sex? Looks like proof. Fewer compliments? Looks like proof. Caught flirting with other women? Looks...
Today marks 7 years since I published my first post on Assume Love. Whether you have been here all seven years or discovered this blog more recently, happy anniversary to us! May your Valentine’s Day be filled with surprises and eye-locking delights.
This may be good news to women who exhaust themselves providing help and support and to the men who love them. Researchers Erin E. Crockett and Lisa A. Neff studied gender differences in what support from a spouse does for our stress levels (or, in the more precise language of researchers, our cortisol slopes). Help from a husband reduced stress (increased the slope) in women. But supportive acts...
Some things bear repeating from time to time. Here are my three favorite ways to feel more loved. Assume Love. Don’t fall prey to your lizard brain’s automatic self-protection plan when you’re dealing with someone who has promised to love you and done a decent job of it until just now. Before you react to whatever just upset you (except violence or a threat of violence), try on...
