You wouldn’t know it by the way they rush into relationships so intensely, but for some people, marriage is frighteningly close. When the fear overwhelms them, they desperately try to create some space. Unfortunately, it usually overwhelms them when the relationship is at its happiest and most intimate. For others, anything short of sharing the same pair of pants 24/7 can feel at times like...
It’s not easy being a daughter-in-law. Just ask mine. I think she was terrified of me when we met, because we come from different cultures, different countries, and different religions. These days, though, we get along pretty well in spite of all that, a good deal better than I got along with my mother-in-law at first. And though you would think being a daughter-in-law first would help you...
I would pick up those things from the pharmacy, but I can’t, because I get home after the pharmacy closes. That was my version of the truth in the last two months of my first marriage. We needed them, at least once a week. I believed my long commute and frequent late hours meant my husband should pick them up. He didn’t. I felt put-upon when I did without and had to up early and...
I have been writing up a storm in response to questions posted recently on an April 2012 blog post of mine: One Last Stand Before Divorce. I hope you will pay a visit if you’re wondering about “I love you” vs. “I am in love with you.” Also if you are separated and hoping to get back together again or on the verge of separating. It’s next to impossible to feel...
Alcohol relaxes us. This can be a great thing for your marriage if you’re anxious about something that might go badly at work tomorrow. You’ll be more ready for quality time together or some much needed physical touch. If it relaxes you so much that you forget to pick up your spouse at the airport, it can make a mess of things. Alcohol also reduces our inhibitions. This is wonderful...
