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May 4, 2007

Why Be Married? For the Kidney

Chip and Cindy Altemos of South Whitehall Township, Pennsylvania, have called off the divorce they both thought they wanted. A week after Valentine's Day this year, Cindy gave Chip her kidney.

According to an AP article on, Cindy said, "There was no way I could walk around with two kidneys and he had none. It was the right thing to do."

"Chip Altemos said his wife's gesture put an end to his new relationship and to talk of divorce. The two will be married 17 years in October."


Today, I want to tackle another of Tammy Blankenship's challenging questions about assuming love.

My husband has gotten better in the past 10 years, but I can't seem to forget about what an ass he was when we first got married. How do I know he won't revert back into the jackass he was?

You don't. You can't. You can Assume Love and verify for yourself that he's behaving like a loving spouse today, thereby opening your heart to receive all the love he has to offer you and reflecting back to him gratitude, caring, and respect -- or you can refuse to receive all of the love you're offered today and reflect back suspicion and distrust.

Assuming love doesn't mean pretending you're loved, so you'll instantly spot a non-loving act and know what to do with it. In the meantime, why deny yourself the joy of being loved?

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Patty Newbold is a widow who got it right the second time...

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