Five ways to make Valentine’s Day with your husband or wife better than ever: Recognize that giving chocolates or other gifts may not feel like a loving act to your spouse. It may feel a lot more like a chore. If he or she does it anyway, it’s because doing chores for you feels like a loving act. Make the chore easier. Let your mate know what delights you: fancy wrappings, high...
Happy Valentine’s Day, and thank you for this fourth anniversary of the Asssume Love blog. It wouldn’t be any fun at all without you. If you’ve been lurking, I hope you will say hi in the comments on this anniversary of ours. Today’s topic is, of course, romance. When it gets this much advertising, this much aisle space in almost every store, you would think every husband...
The week leading up to Valentine’s Day (Sunday, February 14, 2010) is Marriage Week. Does your community group, mosque, church, temple, or synagogue have something planned? It might make the difference between a couple giving up on each other and a family staying together, growing strong. The Smart Marriages website lists lots of Marriage Week ideas. How about sponsoring a college...
Tit for tat may make you happier for the moment, but always at the expense of your relationship. Falling in love made your heart sing, not because of what your beloved offered you, but because it made you want to offer so much more.
Happy Valentine’s day! Be generous.
And thanks for three great years so far. Here’s a post from that first Valentine’s Day in 2006.
Valentine’s Day is a magnificent day to expect love. Especially if you’ve had marriage problems recently, avoid the trap of expecting chocolates or dinner or jewelry or something romantic. Your chances of expecting the right thing are tiny. Your chances of missing out on love when you expect some particular sign of it are great. The best gift you can give your husband on...
I am a widow who got it right the second time. I have been sharing here since February 14, 2006 what I learned from that experience and from positive psychology, marriage research, and my training as a marriage educator.
