In tonight’s Enjoy Being Married teleclass, I’ll be talking about how to get more of your needs met (without cheating). Key to this is knowing what’s reasonable to expect from your husband or wife and what’s not. Here are ten things you should not expect: Vacations that involve being in a bass boat at dawn Weekly tile grout scrubbing Even one foot rub A clean diaper on the...
“My husband never plans anything fun. If we take a vacation, travel to visit family or even go out on a date, it’s because I came up with the idea and made all the arrangements myself. If I left things to him, we would never do anything unless we could do it right now, right here, in whatever clothes we’re already wearing. And it’s not just him. Most of my friends avoid...
It’s January. Time for all those post-holiday arguments. You two have different goals for the new year. You have different hurts left over from last year. You have different fears, different challenges ahead. You have different ideas of how important those threats or challenges will be. You have different ideas how to deal with them. Break out the arguments. And crank up the stakes. Your...
“Andrew Clark, an economist in France, has recently shown … if you are unemployed, you will, on average, be happier if your spouse is unemployed, too.”
– Sonja Lyubomirsky, author of “The How of Happiness: A Scientific Approach to Getting the Life You Want,” in the NY Times this week.
I was asked on Twitter this morning by author Susan Kuhn Frost how to talk to your spouse about money. It’s a great question. In a word: gently. Prepare yourself for the discussion by counting your blessings. When we feel any lack of resources tightening its grip on us, it’s so tempting to pass the fears off to someone else, instead of laying them to rest. But do you really want to...
I am a widow who got it right the second time. I have been sharing here since February 14, 2006 what I learned from that experience and from positive psychology, marriage research, and my training as a marriage educator.
