Because I went to a university with a 15:1 male-to-female ratio and found myself a widow at age 34, I have a little experience with dating. One big mistake people make while dating, assuming their goal is to find and marry a great guy or gal, is trying to duck being judged. They do what they believe others want or expect, hoping to be selected as good enough to commit to. They fear rejection. All...
I received a comment today on this blog from JS, who is looking to put some romance back in his or her marriage. Like so many of us, they have fallen into parents-instead-of-lovers mode. For their anniversary, JS arranged a romantic weekend without the kids at a hotel and spa she likes, but it backfired. She did not like being surprised. She claimed to be ill and refused to go, then went shopping...
I am a widow who got it right the second time. I have been sharing here since February 14, 2006 what I learned from that experience and from positive psychology, marriage research, and my training as a marriage educator.
