For Amna Ahmad, who asked tonight on Twitter whether Assume Love has anything for the “non-married and looking,” here are a few tips. Don’t try to sell anyone on commitment. Date people who are ready for it. If your date invents you (praising you for traits you may even possess but have not yet revealed), tells you in the first or second encounter he or she might move far away...
Five ways to make Valentine’s Day with your husband or wife better than ever: Recognize that giving chocolates or other gifts may not feel like a loving act to your spouse. It may feel a lot more like a chore. If he or she does it anyway, it’s because doing chores for you feels like a loving act. Make the chore easier. Let your mate know what delights you: fancy wrappings, high...
What if you planned a special time with your mate — a meal, a weekend in a cabin, a quiet time after the kids are in bed — and stayed fully present in the moment? What if you acted as if — and spoke as if — nothing at all, good or bad, had ever happened between you and all of your current problems were completely under control? What if you ignored your husband’s or...
Everyone says men are so hard to choose gifts for, so I thought I would offer some assistance. These three gifts will suit him perfectly. One that helps him do more of what he does best, whether it’s paint, make music, lead a team, learn something new, or be kind to animals. One that speaks his love language, whether it’s tickets for the two of you to an activity he loves, an act of...
Which of these would you most appreciate from your husband or wife?
An hour-long massage
A dreaded chore done for you
A gift to use in one of your hobbies
A very special date night together
A heartfelt love letter or song
I am a widow who got it right the second time. I have been sharing here since February 14, 2006 what I learned from that experience and from positive psychology, marriage research, and my training as a marriage educator.
