I now record all of my marriage education teleclasses, and you can listen to these 45- to 70-minute recordings for just $6 each. What Should You Expect from Your Husband or Wife? Are You Suffering Needlessly? When Your Spouse’s Hobby Drives You Crazy How Dare You?! Moments in Marriage Should I Seek a Divorce? What to Do About Your Spouse’s Bad Habits Open Forum: You Choose Our Topics...
Matt asked a very interesting question in his comment on Not All Your Problems Are Marriage Problems: What happens when other problems get in the way of the marriage and one spouse is better at dealing with them than the other? Marriage problems are the ones that end if your spouse suddenly dies. They are problems between the two of you, like whether 4 am sex is enjoyable or not and whether...
Third Alternatives almost always exist, even when it looks like there are just two options and each of you can stand only one of them. And to discover them, you let go of the how to find the why. For example, think of Gary Chapman’s Five Love Languages. One thrives on Quality Time together, especially time spent in meaningful, soul-revealing conversation. When they first met, there was...
When you are looking for Third Alternatives (win-win endings to your disagreements), you must let go of the how to find the why. Let me show you what I mean. One wants to go by car. The other wants to go by plane. Why? One wants to go by car to see the countryside between points A and B. The other wants to go by plane to avoid being the driver on such a long drive. Third Alternatives? Ask a...
We all have both explicit and implicit memories. The explicit ones we can generally retrieve on demand: who taught our 9th grade Algebra class, what the weather was on our wedding day, what we ate for breakfast this morning. Alzheimer’s erodes these memories, and we have none from our earliest years because our brains could not form them yet. The implicit ones are the hidden influences on...
