Usually, I write for people becoming distressed over their marriage. Recently, though, I have had an unusual number of comments from folks blindsided by a spouse who wants out. In this post and the one to follow, I tackle the question of how to avoid being blindsided. If your wife is saying, “I love you, but I am no longer ‘in love’ with you,” your marriage is not over...
Have you ever thought about the perfect environment for your marriage? Would it be one with or without snow? With or without hot, hazy, humid days? With or without a lot of rain and drizzle? Does weather lead to fights or resentments for the two of you? Or does it encourage you to cuddle up inside? Would your marriage flourish if you lived in a place where you open the front door and walk...
I have not been writing many blog posts lately. One big reason is the number of replies I have been writing to comments being added daily to my April 5, 2012 post. Every one of them could be a blog post on its own. All are about marriages on the brink of divorce. Why? She wants to stand on her own two feet as her only child turns 18. She’s in love with a younger man in another country that...
I was interviewed recently on a new internet radio show by a great new host, Christopher Green. The show is called According to Chris, and it was the July 1 show. I hope you will listen to the free recording of Chris Green’s interview of me, Patty Newbold, about how to Assume Love, Expect Love, and Find Third Alternatives, plus the story of what got me started. I would be thrilled if you...
Thanks to a report issued by the National Center for Family and Marriage Research at Bowling Green State University this week, I am seeing lots of news stories reporting that the marriage rate is at its lowest in a century and down almost 60% from 1970. Whatever could this mean? Mostly, it means our population is growing older and we are marrying older. The marriage rate and the percentage of...
