Today marks the 8th anniversary of Assume Love. When I started it, I never imagined I could still be writing, would still have anything to say, eight years later. So I must congratulate you, the folks who show up in my visitor counts and especially those of you who leave comments, for those are the things that keep me writing. Thank you for these eight years and the ones to come. The free book...
This question was left as a comment today, and I think it warrants its own blog post. I hope you will, too. Sue wrote: My husband and I have a pretty good thing going. There is a cultural difference (he is Scandinavian) we have bridged with humor and has even helped us both to stretch and grow. He was raised on a very poor farm and did not learn any table manners. He is now highly educated and in...
Wish your spouse or other life partner would show you more loving? Loving is a choice, but intuiting what you want is a talent. If you want something, ask for it. Loving is a choice, but there is no choice if you demand what you want or nag, throw temper tantrums, or sulk when you don’t get it. Make sure your mate is not your only source for what you want or need. Loving is a choice, but it...
Some men have Social Intelligence nailed. They can recognize people they’ve met and read and adapt their actions to the most fleeting facial expression. But many do an awful job of this. Ladies, before you roll your eyeballs (a serious no-no for a woman who loves her man) when your husband misses cues that are obvious to you, consider this new research into facial recognition. Now that...
Eight years ago, when I first launched this blog, I defined what I mean by Assume Love and gave a lengthy example. But I left something out, and it is very important. Assume Love is a technique you can use every time your spouse does something or fails to do something and you feel anger, resentment, hurt, fear, shame, frustration, or superiority taking hold of your emotions. Any of these...
