This blog gets cross-posted in my Facebook Notes, where I was asked an interesting question this morning (well, morning for me, afternoon for David, who asked): Hey Patty, I get Assume Love, but what about expect love. Isn’t that the opposite? Assume love is taking the onus on yourself while expect love is waiting for someone else to give it. Or am I reading too much into this? This is such...
What makes a marriage fair? A while before my first husband died, I thought it was unfair he wouldn’t take on consulting work, like other professors did. We needed the money. In the months right before his death, I thought it was unfair he wouldn’t accept a semester of disability pay, allowing him to take on more work at home but less work overall with no loss in pay. Then he died...
Some folks scream bloody murder when things don’t go their way in a marriage. Others avoid conflict. Neither works. Both of these involve pulling away from your marriage, distancing yourself from your partner in life. Harder to do, but much more likely to succeed: lean in. Get closer. State your case and affirm your love. Be sexier (not pushier) when you ask for more sex, even if it risks a...
In addition to my work as a Marriage Educator, I have for 35 years been paid to advise managers in major corporations on how to improve employee performance. There’s a strong link between the two. When a company tries to get more or better performance at the expense of an employee’s marriage, it backfires. The latest to make this huge mistake? Those responsible for information...
I Get That All the Time by Due West is #8 this week on the Great American Country charts with a great answer to the question Why Be Married?
What is it that happily married folks get all the time? The “world’s best kind of drug” and “the night of your life.” Help vote I Get That All the Time to #1 and spread the message.
