Writer, speaker, comedian Patty K and her guy Joe ran into one of those “what do we do now?” choices recently. She enthusiastically encouraged him to go after a dream of his only to find it landed her in her idea of a nightmarish lifestyle. Should Joe give up his dream? Should she tolerate being miserable? Did he have to choose between love and an unhappy companion? Did Patty have to...
Pay attention to Steven Stosny’s wonderful advice about using at home the communication techniques you learned in the therapist’s office or in a book. In Marriage Problems: How Communication Techniques Can Make Them Worse, Stosny writes: Early in your relationship you chose to feel connected, just as, if you’re thinking about communication techniques now, you’re choosing...
“I ran straight through the boundaries that a married couple should live by. I thought I could get away with whatever I wanted to. I felt that I had worked hard my entire life and deserved to enjoy all the temptations around me. I felt I was entitled.” At some point in your marriage, there is a high probability you will reach a point where temptation hits at the exact same moment you...
I am not one of the 25 bloggers who wrote it, but I think you should see this. It’s a free eBook called LOVEveryday: Thoughts on Loving Amidst the Chaos of Life. It’s beautifully designed and has some wonderful ideas for making the rest of the year even more delightful than Valentine’s Day. Leave them a comment and tell them I sent you. I think we need more of these, and I want...
Nancy “Sunny” Bostrom, a volunteer deputy marriage commissioner in Alameda County, CA, has a beautiful take on performing weddings at the county courthouse: “It’s like looking through the eye of God. I get to be three feet away at a moment none of their descendants will see, that no parents get to see in the same way. You place yourself in the crossroads where people are...
