Did you ever play the “Tell Me My Spouse is Awful” game when something went wrong in your marriage? It’s the basis for the dreadful TV show, The Marriage Ref. You disagree, so you ask friends, even strangers, to decide who is “right.” Except neither of you is right. You just disagree. And disagreements with the most important person in your world are truly alarming...
When I get upset with my husband, I sometimes come to Assume Love to remember what I’m supposed to do about it. Here are two of the quotes I find very helpful. Twice now, I have been blessed to have love in my life. Love includes some side benefits that lighten the load of living, but when we specify which ones with our expectations, I’ve learned we drive away the love. [August 2006]...
Agi Smith is interviewing folks going through divorce for the Huffington Post. Yesterday’s interview was with a NJ man who now must fly to another state every other weekend to maintain a relationship with his 10-year-old son. He says he absolutely, absolutely needs love in his life but oddly misses nothing about his marriage except what his son has lost. What he claims to like best about...
It was a huge hit when I had been a widow for just three years, but I had not heard it in a long time. Tears streamed down my face as I listened to Garth Brooks singing his first #1 hit again today. If tomorrow never comes, will she know how much I loved her? … And if my time on earth were through And she must face the world without me Is the love I gave her in the past Gonna be enough to...
When a marriage grows distant or unsatisfying, one partner or the other may ask, “Should I stay for the kids?” Sure. If you stay married for the sake of your children, they will avoid the overscheduled life of a child of divorce. They will find more money in their education account or better food on the table thanks to the economies of a shared household. And they will probably manage...
