Ever notice how much more lovable your husband, wife, or life partner is when life is going well for you? You smile, you get smiles back. You embrace and all is forgiven. You feel generous and in return you feel loved and appreciated. So why is it that when we’re having work problems or doing poorly at our attempts to lose weight or build muscle or finish a project, we criticize our mates...
I received a heartbreaking comment today. One of my hearts greatest desires is to have a child one day. My husband is the only one that can give this to me. But he never wants to have any children… at all… ever! I have been waiting 7 years for him to change his mind.. with absolutely no change and no sign of hope for the future. It’s not all that uncommon a situation. But how do...
Want to be the best sort of dad? Show your children how to feel and express their gratitude on this special day. Gratitude is the one proven way to exceed their happiness set-point. And pointing out their mother’s best points is a sure way to increase their security in this world and their ability to find love as adults. Be an enthusiastic supporter of your wife or ex-wife today and every...
I received a wonderful question today by email. It came from a woman engaged to be married to a man who (surprise, surprise!) does not do things the same way she does. She wants to know how to develop more trust in him. One of the things that makes it difficult to trust him is that, as she puts it, “[I] know things should be done a certain way to get them done correctly.” Ah...
Ever agree to let your spouse handle a purchase or take care of problem? And did you find yourself backseat driving? I am a huge backseat driver. I have a lot of trouble trusting my husband will get the job done, especially if his approach is not the one I would take. And it almost never is. We send such an awful message when we drop hints and ask for progress reports. We convey, “I...
I am a widow who got it right the second time. I have been sharing here since February 14, 2006 what I learned from that experience and from positive psychology, marriage research, and my training as a marriage educator.
