Congratulations on your 17+ years of marriage and on your decision, almost six months after filing, to call off your divorce. May you find ways to forgive each other and to find new roles in each other’s lives. Not easy for anyone, surely much harder for those who must live their lives in public. May others on the verge of divorce find courage and inspiration in your decision. And may you...
Did you, like so many others, grow up without the chance to observe a great marriage at close range for many years? Marriage books and blogs like this one can only go so far to fill this gap. We need role models, not just techniques. Lois Tschetter Hjelmstad offers us an intimate, close-up picture of her marriage to Les Hjelmstad in her new book, This Path We Share: Reflecting on 60 Years of...
Catie W. O’Neal from the University of Georgia is conducting a study of gender roles in marriage. Can you help her? She is looking for married couples. Both of you must complete the questionnaire. And both of you must be between 20 and 32 years old. The information you provide will be kept confidential. Her project has been approved by Dr. David W. Wright, Department of Child and Family...
Earthquakes and the discovery of your spouse’s extramarital affair have a lot in common. You can live in a place for decades before an earthquake big enough to cause damage occurs. Day after day, even though you know the odds of an earthquake in your lifetime are high, you live your life normally. To do otherwise would keep you tied up in knots. Then one hits. Overturned shelves, collapsed...
On days like this, when so many people fear for their lives and property, when so many have already lost theirs, I feel lucky. My life has its ordinary ups and downs, but I am safe, and I am not on my own. I feel so fortunate to be married on days like this. We have some minor damage from last night’s storm, but we got off very easy. Around us, at least one person has lost his life and...
I am a widow who got it right the second time. I have been sharing here since February 14, 2006 what I learned from that experience and from positive psychology, marriage research, and my training as a marriage educator.
