The news media love to declare the end of marriage. Yes, lots more of the over-18 crowd were married back in 1970. Now it is 51% (counting only opposite-sex marriages, per the federal definition of marriage). Should you feel less in the mainstream if you are married? Hardly. Thirty seven percent of Americans over the age of 18 have been married to the same person for at least the last 10 years...
Here are three books I often recommend to people dealing with marriage problems. If You Doubt Your Spouse Still Loves You or Your Spouse Doubts Your Love: The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate by Gary Chapman If Your Disagreements Turn into Loud Arguments: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work If You Hit, Grab, Choke, or Belittle Your Spouse or Your...
You have been working a brutal schedule, and you expect a little extra help from your mate. After all, you both benefit from the overtime or the raise that comes from your efforts. However, it’s dinner time, and nothing is ready to eat. What do you do? You can focus on the work. You do more. She should do more. Doing less? Unfair! You are mistreated. You deserve better! She has no respect...
Parenting disagreements can be some of the toughest. When your child makes a request and one of you wants to say yes, but the other thinks yes would be a bad idea, you really need a Third Alternative. You need one because you are in danger of planting your feet and holding your ground to protect your child at the possible expense of your marriage. Concern for a child motivates immediate action...
I had this odd idea last night about marriages and pepper mills. Here are three ways your marriage is like a pepper mill: It is always there, easy to take for granted. Our pepper mill sits right next to our salt shaker on our table. We forget how valuable it is. Pepper is so valuable that it spurred development of the Silk Road and world exploration in the late 1400s. It could be used for ransom...
