“‘Don’t wait until your kids leave home to schedule quality time with your partner,’ said UC Berkeley psychology professor Oliver John” in today’s UC Berkeley News. He and fellow researchers Ravenna Helson and Sara Gorchoff conducted interviews with 100 women starting when they were seniors at Mills College in 1958. They might also have added...
Here’s a fascinating bit of unexpected support for marriage education. Your willingness to consider the possibility that there’s something valuable to be learned, in and of itself, predicts you are more likely to succeed in marriage than someone who believes it’s a matter of how good a match you made.
Here’s a great quote from Jim Collins’ book Good to Great that applies even more to marriages than to the businesses he writes about: “Get involved in something that you care so much about that you want to make it the greatest it can possibly be, not because of what you will get, but just because it can be done.” Most of us start out this way, vowing to keep at it through...
Today’s guest blogger, Pace, is a communication educator. She and her wife Kyeli started a business called the Usual Error Project to help people build communication skills in relationships. Their first book, The Usual Error, will be published next month, but until then you can read their blog at PaceAndKyeli.com. When we miscommunicate with our partners, we often feel defensive or angry...
After tonight’s teleclass on Divers (people with one interest they keep going deeper into) and Scanners (people with so many interests they can’t choose one) and how they can get along, someone sent me this question. Diver and Scanner couple. My husband does not understand all my piles. He calls them my “droppings.” I think of them as my “stations.” I...
