The How of Happiness author Sonja Lyubomirsky explains one way to add some delight to your relationship. Take the next 15 to 20 minutes to describe in writing how you might never have met your partner, how you might never have started dating, and how you might not have ended up together. What little twists of fate might have kept you two from becoming a permanent couple? If you can’t see...
When you’re upset about any other part of life with your husband, wife, or life partner, it’s likely you will start noticing your differences, too. How compatible do you need to be to keep the relationship going? Compatibility has two sides: propriety and enthusiasms. Marry someone whose ideas of what’s proper and what’s not differ wildly from yours and you’ll...
“I don’t love you anymore.” Those are really tough words to hear. Laura A. Munson’s response to them is must-read stuff for anyone whose once-great marriage has hit a rocky patch in the road. Munson’s article in the NY Times is a great read. While she came to it down a different path, what she did is assume love. She asked herself why her husband would say those...
Funniest marriage tip of the month award goes to Slashdot user dotancohen. It comes in reply to a self-reported gaming/Linux geek preparing to marry his literary geek girlfriend. They asked for some more helpful advice than the stuff written for “an alpha-male jock and a submissive cheerleader-style wife.” So dotancohen offers a geekier approach to a happy marriage: “Set up a...
I heard today from yet another woman who found herself with a long list of unmet needs, divorced, and then found herself in the same position all over again after a few years with her next partner. It would be very easy in this position to conclude men are to blame, and they’re all alike. Some of the others I’ve known who reached this point decided after two rounds of this to live...
