Alcohol abuse and alcoholism harm a lot of marriages. When we take those wedding vows, pledging to stick together in sickness or in health, do we also accept the drunken rages, lost wages, and self-inflicted depression? If staying and leaving were our only options, I would say no, we do not vow to accept all this harm. Fortunately, staying and leaving are usually not our only two options. Al...
I was so glad to receive a comment about yesterday’s post, wondering if I was injecting a bit of sarcasm. I was glad to receive it. I know this technique is a bit difficult to grasp. I welcome any opportunity to make it clearer, because I think it helps enormously. All by itself, and in just a few critical minutes, it can be the difference between divorce and renewed love for your spouse...
Assume Love is shorthand for a little technique that can turn your distressing marriage into a great one. Try it whenever you find yourself wondering if your mate could possibly still love you or be worthy of your love. All you do is ask yourself, “if this person still loves me completely and still possesses his or her best qualities, and I had no doubt of this, how might I explain what he...
I added some more categories to this blog today, to make it easier for you to find older posts about my main three marriage-fixing techniques, Assume Love, Expect Love, and Find Third Alternatives. All of these were previously lumped together under the How to Assume Love category. I hope you find the change helpful.
My husband does not often suggest subjects for this blog. However, when he read this quote from Kim Kardashian’s blog, he said, “You have to write about this.” And so I will. About her very brief marriage to Kris Humphries, Kim Kardashian wrote: It just didn’t turn out to be the fairy tale I had so badly hoped for. Fairy tales entertain, and they teach. And still some...
