It seems a lot of people get married and then wonder if they married the wrong person. If you are still single and looking, you might wonder how to avoid marrying the wrong person, too. The right person never uses force or emotional manipulation to get what he or she wants from you. The right person, like all the wrong people, is not likely to change in the ways you imagine or plan. If...
Yesterday, in Part 4 of this series on how to explain a loving spouse doing something that upsets you, I wrote: “I am not talking here about pushing, shoving, hitting, cutting, damaging something especially dear to you, making remarks known to bring you to tears or render you helpless, or repeating angry outbursts or making threats until you fear being in the same room as your mate.”...
When you Assume Love, you try to explain how a loving person might come to do whatever your wife, husband, or life partner just did that upset you so. This series offers some tips to help when you just cannot get beyond, “It’s awful, I hate it, it must be intentional meanness.” First, we looked at Love Languages. Next, we looked at genetic differences in our ability to read each...
When you Assume Love and try to explain your husband’s or wife’s behavior as a loving act, do you draw a blank? We continue our series today with more tips for finding that explanation. On Sunday, we looked at Love Languages. On Monday, we looked at genetic differences in our ability to read emotional cues. Today, we look at the calendar. Are there days in your year with an emotional...
When you Assume Love and try to explain it as a loving act, do you sometimes draw a blank? This series offers some guides you can use. Yesterday, we looked at using Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages. Today, we will apply some new research on emotions. Let’s imagine you just shared some news with your spouse, but the reaction is hardly the one you expected. It’s as if he or she...
