I received two great suggestions for blog posts in the past 24 hours. Let’s start with how to handle chronic depression in a spouse. I just saw stats yesterday saying depressed people end up divorced in even greater percentages than those with narcissistic personality disorder. It has to be pretty difficult to be married to someone suffering from depression. Here was the request: I...
Those of you who have been reading my blog for a while probably know I am totally wowed by Rachel Cornell, also known as the ProNagger. Her “nagging” and her tips, tools, and online support communities keep me on track with both my day job and my marriage writing. I can’t thank her enough. You may not know Rachel is married to a very accomplished painter, Matthew Cornell. His...
Usually, I write for people becoming distressed over their marriage. Recently, though, I have had an unusual number of comments from folks blindsided by a spouse who wants out. In this post and the one before it, I tackle the question of how to avoid being blindsided. About twice as many divorces are initiated by wives as by husbands, but even men sometimes say, “I love you, but I am no...
Usually, I write for people becoming distressed over their marriage. Recently, though, I have had an unusual number of comments from folks blindsided by a spouse who wants out. In this post and the one to follow, I tackle the question of how to avoid being blindsided. If your wife is saying, “I love you, but I am no longer ‘in love’ with you,” your marriage is not over...
Have you ever thought about the perfect environment for your marriage? Would it be one with or without snow? With or without hot, hazy, humid days? With or without a lot of rain and drizzle? Does weather lead to fights or resentments for the two of you? Or does it encourage you to cuddle up inside? Would your marriage flourish if you lived in a place where you open the front door and walk...
I am a widow who got it right the second time. I have been sharing here since February 14, 2006 what I learned from that experience and from positive psychology, marriage research, and my training as a marriage educator.
