Would your marriage survive if you or your spouse had to deal with any of these? Firing Severe depression Blindness A home so small your visiting father can only get to the bathroom through your bedroom or by going outside Bulimia Painkiller addiction A rehab program you cannot leave that’s so bad your counselor commits suicide A bad hiking fall with a serious head injury for the one spouse...
One of my fellow Success Teams leaders asked me a couple of interesting questions recently on behalf of some of her team members. How do you get a partner (or a friend) who is resistant, to express THEIR goals, and How do you get a partner who is threatened by your new enthusiasm to support YOUR goals? The answer to the first one is simple. You don’t. You may hope to support a...
I have had times when I don’t feel loved by the wonderful person I married. I’m guessing you have, too. Do you know why this happens? It’s really not sunspots affecting the guys and gals we married. Usually, it has almost nothing to do with how much love they want to offer us. Remember that story about the fellow who asks for help searching for his dropped key in a dark parking...
“If you don’t get married, you can’t get divorced. Why couldn’t we learn from the devastatingly low percentage of successful marriages that our last generation went through?” This quote from Adam Levine is all over the internet this week, attributed to a cover story in Nylon Guys, a fashion magazine, whose own link to the interview comes up with a 404 error. I am a...
Knot Yet: The Benefits and Costs of Delayed Marriage in America just came out. Lots of interesting findings about our ever-increasing average age of first marriage. The central point is the “Great Crossover,” which happened in 2000. Since 1970, the median age at which a woman has her first child has been slowly increasing. (See Figure 9.) I was 18 then and half of all the women the...
I am a widow who got it right the second time. I have been sharing here since February 14, 2006 what I learned from that experience and from positive psychology, marriage research, and my training as a marriage educator.
