If you were to change yourself in some way, to face life differently, to develop a new habit or build a character strength, how would you want to do it? Would you prefer your mate tell you what he or she dislikes about you and the things you do so you can fix them? Or would you prefer to hear about you at your best and work to live up to your reputation? There is a good chance your husband, wife...
It’s very difficult to change another person’s behavior. And it is next to impossible when done through criticism instead of agreement. If you look carefully, though, you may discover some very annoying things are done not to annoy you but to be with you. Or to love you the way he or she wants to be loved. Or to cope with stress that comes from earning money to share with you or doing...
Dating after you’re married is healthy and fun, as long as you’re dating the person you married! If you know your mate’s love language, you can make sure your date nights increase the love he or she feels from you. Words of Affirmation – Start with a compliment on his or her appearance as you head out for your date. Write about your love on the paper tablecloth over dinner...
So much of the time, when married folks say they want to take their spouse to marriage therapy, it’s to answer this question: am I right? The answer is not very helpful. Referees are useful only for deciding competitions, not for making relationships more intimate or more satisfying. A better question is this: how can we resolve this disagreement in a way that satisfies both of us? On the...
Barbara Sher has been inspiring people for most of my adult life to do what they love. She’s helped them tap into their talents and passions. She’s helped them get around a million obstacles. She’s told them not to choose between the many things that thrill them, but to use her tricks to fit them all into one lifetime. She’s even helped them figure out what they love doing...
I am a widow who got it right the second time. I have been sharing here since February 14, 2006 what I learned from that experience and from positive psychology, marriage research, and my training as a marriage educator.
