Seth Godin says this morning to his huge tribe of business owners and marketers: “The next time you’re sure someone is angry with you, perhaps it’s worth considering that you might be mistaken.” It is, whether it’s a business contact or a spouse. But how do you tell if you’re mistaken? You start from an assumption about the person and test their behavior...
All Men are Dogs
I love Wray Herbert’s blog, We’re Only Human, and one of his recent posts has me thinking. Citing Claude M. Steele’s research on stereotypes, he writes: “Steele’s unique contribution is taking us inside the mind of the stereotype victim, and it’s not a pretty sight. When we’re unnerved by an unsavory caricature, our minds race; we’re vigilant;...
Angry Mate? TV Show has Answers
The Discovery Health Channel on cable TV will be showing Enraged this week, which “follows the dramatic and compelling stories of two families close to the breaking point because of a loved one’s explosive anger.” Steven Stosny appears, with a glimpse into his powerful Boot Camp for couples dealing with anger. The schedule: Sunday, May 2 at 10 pm Monday, May 3 at 12 am Tuesday...
Finding More Love in the Same Old Marriage
How much easier to love someone you see infrequently and only for special occasions: dinners, shows, trips to the beach. Gratitude, respect, patience, generosity? You get them all, simply because your partner prepares for the event, expects a good time, and knows this might be his or her last time with you if things do not go well. Dating has a lot going for it. Of course, your partner expects...
The Temporary Marriage, through a Child’s Eyes
The marvelous Pam Slim, author of Escape from Cubicle Nation writes today about divorce through a child’s eyes. Pam is the mother of an adorable five-year-old now. Check out the photo of Pam at that same age, just before her father decided to find himself, minus the wife and kid, and how long it took Pam to find herself again as a consequence. She doesn’t mention if her father ever...